Difficulty raising twins.

There are many psychological, social and economic issues associated with multiple pregnancies. These issues should be given as much attention as medical risks. When treating infertility, the likelihood of multiple pregnancies increases. If you are currently having a multiple pregnancy (you are pregnant with multiple children), the questions in this booklet will help you make an informed decision about your treatment. He will also be able to prepare you for the potential difficulties and joys that parents of twins experience. For more information on the medical issues of multiple pregnancies, please see the ASRM (American Society for Reproductive Medicine) booklet, Complications of Multiple Pregnancy.

Psychological and social aspects

1. Some twins, especially newborns, can sometimes be difficult to tell apart, even if they are not identical. At first, you can distinguish twins from each other by using different colors of clothes or bracelets with names. Soon you will be able to distinguish between them according to their personal characteristics and character.
2. Parents may treat twins differently from singleton babies. During the first few weeks, you may notice that you like one or the other child better. Your “favorite” may change from week to week as you get to know each of them better. Each infant's needs differ over time, which requires a competent distribution of attention.
3. It is physically more difficult to care for twins than it is for a singleton baby. This is especially true for infants and preschool children. This can make parents very tired and stressful for a long time. Make sure you make time for yourself and your spouse, even if it's only a few minutes a day. Remember to take care of yourself, not just your children.
4. It can be difficult for older siblings to get used to having younger children. They also need your attention. Be sensitive to the needs of older children. Take them with you to your doctor's appointments to involve them in the process. Ask them to help you choose baby care supplies. Ask them to be your “helpers” and ask their opinion on how to care for children. This will help them feel needed and loved. Younger children will need a significant amount of time alone with you, even if it is divided into small intervals.
5. Some parents and schools prefer to send twins to different classes. It can help develop personality. This will be the right decision, especially if the children have different potential. But some schools may not have enough classrooms to separate twins, and sending children to different schools may not be possible. Contact your local school system to inquire about the possibility of separating twins. You can also connect teachers to create the best environment for your children.
6. Parents of twins can feel socially isolated. They may be tired, lack personal time, be very busy taking care of children, or have financial difficulties. It's easy to completely immerse yourself in caring for twins, but don't give up your hobbies and passions. Instead, try to find creative ways to match your needs with those of your children.
7. Twins always attract attention. People may ask you if you have received fertility treatment. This can cause positive or negative reactions depending on the nature of the parents and children and the type of attention. Think about how you would answer such interest and questions. It's important to treat this with a sense of humor.
8. Don't rely on family and friends to help you on an ongoing basis. Parents of twins usually need extra help, even if one of the parents is at home all the time. Premature babies require fewer but more frequent feedings compared to term-born babies. It also takes a long time for night feeds and diaper changes. You may need someone to help you at night until the children develop proper sleep patterns. If you do not have the opportunity to have a helper in the house, distribute the schedule among yourself so that each parent takes on an equal share of the work. Lack of sleep can lead to exhaustion and depression. Beware of these signs in yourself or your partner. You must work as a team to overcome these difficulties. Postpartum depression is more common in mothers of twins. Depression can also occur in fathers. Recognizing the signs and symptoms of postpartum depression and applying treatment is essential for the health of mothers and babies.

Support from organizations that understand the issue of parenting twins can be helpful. Talking to parents who also have twins can be very supportive during difficult times.

Economic aspects

• The cost of providing health care for childbirth and the care of newborn twins is 4 times higher than the cost of an only child. And 12 times higher in the case of three twins. Check your health insurance for additional costs in advance, if any.
• Companies are not so willing to sponsor parents of twins with formula milk, diapers, etc. as it was before. As the number of multiple twins has increased, fewer people are now getting outside help.
• The costs of raising children with congenital disabilities can be quite high. Some of your children may have disabilities. If one of them is abnormal, you can contact government or private agencies or local support groups. They may be able to provide you with educational and financial support.
• The total cost of raising twins is likely to be higher than the cost of raising the same number of singleton children. Cribs, child seats, high chairs, and other items that need to be purchased right away can be financially costly. To save money, check with retailers for twin discounts. Some stores offer 10% discount for twins, 20% discount for triplets, etc. You can also contact thrift stores. They often sell new or near new items at bargain prices. Most twin support groups run garage sales where families can buy clothes and equipment for multiple twins at a low cost.

Conclusion

Raising twins can be both a challenge and a blessing. It is worth trying to join a support group and chat with other twin parents to learn from their experiences. Check with your PCP about local and national support groups. Look for communities where you live. The more information you have, the more prepared you will be.